I haven’t been on here for a while, and there are a few reasons. The past two months have been a long “silence” of sorts. I’ve learned in my years that some silences are necessary and some are self-inflicted.
1: Some genius put my laptop in an unsecured compartment of my trunk and damaged the screen
2. There have been a lot of decisions just WAITING to pounce
p.s. did I ever mention that I’m a genius?
a little ’bout me: once a decision has been made, I’m great. However, when there are many choices and options and “to-do’s,” I tend to freeze
overthink. halt. distract. excuse. make. no decisions.
There are really great advantages to being analytical. The downside is that you can think and think and overthink yourself out of any real decision-making. I know this about myself and have developed a system to force me-self into action:
When you have paralyzed yourself with options, “what if’s” and potential outcomes, you must automatically choose the last option that felt wise, safe and logical.
I get it if you aren’t ready to buy any self-help books from me yet, but it works. Once my initial meeting with Foster Love in Belton, I reached out to over a dozen child-placement agencies. I heard back from so many.
Dear Ms. Nelson,
Thank you for your interest. Please come to this informational meeting at such and such date. Please fill out this form. Please call me back. Please be available at this time. And that time. And here. And there. And everywhere.
SEE?!? Options. Too many options.
Sometimes my genius contributes to the demise of a beloved laptop screen. Sometimes it solves problems. I went back to the last conversation with an agency that felt like “home.”
Let’s skip back a few weeks. I had a phone meeting with Bright Future Children and Family Services. When I spoke with them, the agent said something that “stuck” with me.
During this process, you are going to have a lot thrown at you. Whether or not you decide to work with us, if at any point you are dealing with an agency that forgets that YOU are the one doing the hard work, you need to walk away. If you are dealing with someone who pretends, even for a second, that YOU are not the driver of this bus, you need to walk away. The agency should exist to support you and the child. If they ever make it about themselves and what is convenient for them, you need to run. This is about you. This is about the child.
In the midst of my indecision, I realized that most of the pressure I felt had more to do with the agencies’ expectations vs my own doing. They had schedules. They had templates. They had meetings. They needed me to do this. By this date. And this. And this.
So, today, I walked into Bright Future Children and Family services a single female and walked away a “new parent.” I have lots of paperwork to fill out and a lot of studying to do.
But, the point is….
I started.
Busy Bossy 